The Queen’s Decree: 7 “Selfish” Acts of Radical Self-Love for Black Women
The poet, the warrior, the queen Audre Lorde once decreed: “Caring for myself is not self-indulgent. It is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”
Let that land in your spirit for a moment. Preservation.
Can you remember the woman you were before you became the anchor, the shoulder, the rock for everyone else? … It’s time to wage a beautiful, glorious war for the preservation of you.
1. How Do You Reclaim Your Time (and Your Passport)?
It starts with a scent. The rich, dark aroma of your morning coffee, before the first ping of your phone shatters the holy silence. … What if you claimed the whole damn day? The week?
Reclaiming your time isn’t a gentle request. It’s a rebellion. … That is the sound of you coming home to yourself. You can exhale now.
2. How Do You Rediscover Your Desires (On Your Own Terms)?
For years, your desires have been whispers, drowned out by the needs of everyone else. … but the fit is still perfect.
Close your eyes. What do you feel? … Following them is an act of devotion to yourself.
3. Why Must You Indulge in Unapologetic Luxury?
Let’s be clear: you have earned it all. … Being “selfish” enough to claim it is simply you agreeing with what the universe already knows: you are worthy of exquisite comfort.
This isn’t about the price tag. … You are not just visiting a life of elegance and ease—you are remembering that it is where you belong.
4. How Do You Create Your Own Adventure?
For too long, your life’s adventures have been scripted by the needs of others. … It’s the feeling of your heart beating a little faster as you try something new, something just for you.
Picture this: the wind whipping through your hair … starring in the epic adventure of your own life.
5. Why Is It Crucial to Heal What Weighs You Down?
You have carried the weight of the world on your regal shoulders … Being “selfish” enough to set that weight down is the most profound act of healing you can undertake.
This is the sacred work. … Healing makes you lighter, freer, and ready for the magnificent chapter that is waiting for you.
6. How Can You Connect With Your Sisterhood?
Being “selfish” with your time means you can finally invest it in a sisterhood of queens who see you … This is your tribe.
Imagine a trip with these women … reflecting back to you the incredible woman you have always been.
7. What Does It Mean to Embody the Queen You Are?
This is your legacy. When you are “selfish” enough to claim your joy … You show them what a woman in her full power, living a life of unapologetic self-love, looks like.
Your journey is not just your own. … showing them that they too are worthy of a crown.
Your Permission Slip Has Been Signed
So there it is, “Selfish” is self-honor. “Selfish” is self-preservation. “Selfish” is the most sacred form of self-love.
Here is your official permission slip to be gloriously, unapologetically selfish. Your throne is waiting, and your next chapter is ready to be written.
Ready to take the first step?